What Is It?
Abstinence is not having sex. When a person decides to practice
abstinence, that means he or she has decided not to have sex.
How Does It Work?
Abstinence is the simplest form of birth control. If two people
don't have sex, then sperm can't fertilize an egg and there's no
possibility of a pregnancy. Other forms of birth control depend
on barriers that prevent the sperm from reaching the egg (such as
condoms or diaphragms) or they interfere with the menstrual cycle
(as birth control pills do). With abstinence, no barriers or pills
Do you have to be a virgin to practice abstinence? No. Sometimes,
someone who has been having sex decides not to continue having sex.
Even if a person has been having sex, he or she can still choose
abstinence to prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases
How Well Does It Work?
Abstinence is the only form of birth control that is 100% effective
in preventing pregnancy. Although many other methods can have high
rates of success if used properly, they can fail occasionally. The
rate of success of other birth control methods varies depending
on the type of birth control. Practicing abstinence, however, ensures
that a girl will not become pregnant because there is no opportunity
for sperm to fertilize an egg.
Protection Against STDs
Abstinence protects people against STDs. Some STDs spread through
oral-genital sex or even intimate skin-to-skin contact without actual
penetration (genital warts and herpes can be spread this way). So
only avoiding all types of intimate genital contact can prevent
STDs. Avoiding all types of intimate genital contact is complete
Only complete and consistent abstinence prevents pregnancy and
protects against STDs. Because a person does not have any type of
intimate sexual contact - including oral sex - when he or she practices
complete abstinence, there is no risk of passing on a sexually transmitted
Consistent abstinence means that the person practices abstinence
all the time. Having sex even once means that the person risks getting
Abstinence does not prevent AIDS and hepatitis B infections that
come from nonsexual activities like using contaminated needles for
doing drugs, tattooing, or taking steroids.
How Do You Do It?
Not having sex may seem easy because it's not doing anything. But
peer pressure and things you see on TV and in the movies can make
the decision to practice abstinence more difficult. If it seems
like everybody else is having sex, some teens may feel they have
to do it, too, just to be accepted. Don't let kidding or pressure
from friends, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, or even the media push
you into something that's not right for you.
A couple can still have a relationship without having sex. The
people who care about you should respect that deciding not to have
sex is an important personal choice. You might not realize it, but
most teens are not having sex.
Choosing to practice abstinence is an important decision, and you
may have questions about making this choice or about other methods
of birth control. Your doctor or nurse - or an adult you trust,
such as a parent, teacher, or counselor - can help provide some